Growing up in a small town, I have always dreamed of the big city lights. Even as a teenager I have always been fascinated by tv shows, which were played in big cities such as New York City or Los Angeles. I mean, I loved watching Pretty Little Liars or The Vampire Diaries as well, but they weren’t as exciting as Gossip Girl, 90210 or Suits to me.
If you have been reading LY MADEMOISELLE for a while now, you might already know that I moved away pretty early. At the age of 19 years old to be honest. Back then in my teenage years, I moved to London, and only a year later I ended up in Munich for my studies. During my studies I lived in Paris for my first study abroad semester, So, as you can see, I moved around very often. But looking at all the places from a geographical way, all the cities I moved to, are in Europe. Therefore, I could always go home when I wanted to.
My recent move is an entirely different experience! You probably already saw here that I moved to New York City and that change of living place was really a dream come true. Little did I know that moving to NYC would be an entirely new experience. The USA is so different than Europe. Especially, living in such a fast pace place as NYC. Oh, and don’t forget how unbelievable expensive the city of dreams can get. After living in several European cities and now also in one American city, I thoroughly recommend everyone to move away in your 20s at least once!
If you don’t know if this decision would be the right one for you, then here are five reasons why you should move away in your 20s!
Moving away is like opening the door to freedom! There is so much to see and to explore outside of your hometown. All the things, which our world has to offer is beyond words.
Sometimes moving away can be getting independence from our parents, sometimes it is from society. If you’re living in a small town, there might be the situation that everyone knows everyone. Often people feel pressured if they are different and don’t fit into society. If this case is happening to you, don’t worry! Just move away! Move to a place, where nobody cares. Trust me, there are places, where you can be whoever you want to be! Everyone can have freedom and independence if they are in the right place.
2. SELF-DISCOVERY & FEARLESS
Take that step outside of your comfort zone! Moving away isn’t easy, and it comes along with a lot of challenges. If it would be easy, then everyone would have already moved away. It takes a lot of courage and especially an open mind.
Honestly, I moved away so many times now, and it is still a challenge for me every time. On the other hand, I love that feeling! Because it is only a challenge in the beginning and then, when you will figure it out, it is going to be a fantastic time. Sometimes it takes more time, sometimes it takes less, but everything will be fine in the end.
Moreover, you will definitely get rewarded in the end because you will get mentally stronger, discovered so much newness, explored the world and met amazing new people! All those experiences and memories will lead you to be fearless and self-discovery!
This one is one of my favourite reasons to move to new places.
The little sister of a good friend of mine moved to the USA for a high school year recently. I remembered that she was a little bit afraid of not finding friends and being alone. I told her what my dad always taught me: “Don’t worry! You can find new friends everywhere in this world!”. Oh especially in the USA! American people are so much more open-minded and welcoming!
I found amazing friends while I was living in London and Paris. Even though I can’t see them all the time anymore, our friendships are still going strong. Besides, there’s nothing better than having reunions!
This time, when I moved to NYC, I didn’t only meet new friends, but I could also expand my professional network. I got the pleasure to meet so many inspirational people, who are really successful business people.
So as you can see, moving away is a chance to expand not only your personal network but also your professional.
4. STRONG RELATIONSHIPS
They say ‘you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone’. I’m not saying that moving away means that you are going to lose relationships, but it will definitely not getting more comfortable. It takes a lot of work to maintain your contacts, but believe me, it is possible.
The good thing about this aspect is that you’re going to focus more on the essential relationships. Relationships that really matter like family and good friends.
Distance is a severe problem, but the right people are still going to be in your life and your future because you will appreciate those relationships more. Furthermore, absence makes the bond grow stronger!
I have already talked in Toxic Friendships that I had to learn it the hard way, that not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. However, I have a few friends, who are always by my side even though I moved away. Therefore, I appreciate those relationships even more!
Adulting… somehow this word sounds so scary and intimidating. Being an adult, paying rent and bills, doing laundry and so on. The list seems to be endless and might seem scary, but you know what? You will figure it out! And once you did, you will feel self-reliant.
I have to admit that sometimes I feel like I am drowning in work, studying, keeping my apartment clean and life in general. The older you get, the more you have to do and have to take care off. Responsibilities are always adding up instead of the opposite. Therefore, I was too busy, and life just passed by, during the last years. In my opinion, being busy shouldn’t be as fancy as it sounds, and nowadays I would say I finally found my work-life-balance. Of course, there are still times where I work more because there are things, which has to get done by a deadline. But while living in NYC, I really found a way for myself to be discipline, enjoying life and still manage to reach all my goals and dreams.
Therefore, don’t be afraid of being an adult. Moving away is an excellent opportunity to figure out everything, because like I already say, you are going to have the freedom and independence to create the life you want.